Friday, November 11, 2011


And in case you're wondering: No, it isn't Wendy G. (see my previous posts if you aren't familiar with the Wendy G. case). But there are striking similarities between the case I'm writing about today and Wendi's, including the crucial decision by the judge to refuse to hear evidence.

The mother is Ann M. She has six children, but four of them are adults and thus are no longer subject to court orders. But the two who are still minors, ages 15 and 17, refuse to go on visits with their father. I had the opportunity to speak with Ann at length today and hear her account of what has taken place (which this post will barely scratch the surface of).

The family reports that the father has a long history of serious assaults against the kids. They say that, for example, he pushed one of his sons down a flight of stairs and on another occasion grabbed his daughter by the throat as if he was going to strangle her. He threatened to shoot himself in front of the kids, and on repeated occasions threatened to kill himself by various means. One of his children was afraid enough of him that he would sleep with a knife under his pillow, and testified to that in court in front of Judge Hulsing at a hearing three weeks ago. None of the four children who are now adults wants to see him.

These reports from the family represent serious violence and the potential for lethality. However, parallel to what he did in Wendi G.'s case, Judge Hulsing simply refused to consider the reports. Then, at the most recent hearing, the minor children (17 year-old boy and 15 year-old girl) appeared at court and were prepared to speak to the judge, but he refused to hear from them, despite their age. And he refused to allow the mother to speak about anything other than whether the visits had taken place.

In the brief time that she was permitted to speak,, Ann told the judge that her children had gone on the previous visit but had been frightened by his driving, so when he came to pick them up the next time, the children refused to drive with him and said they wanted to take a separate car (with the 17-year-old driving) to his house, following him. The father was angry and drove away, and then he failed to show up for the next three scheduled visits. Ann went on to tell Judge Hulsing that the children were present at the court and wanted to tell him in their own words what had happened.

But Judge Hulsing refused to hear from the children, and apparently was not interested in whether the father had actually been the one to choose not to have the visits. He would not allow Ann to say anything more, and he ordered her directly to ten days in jail because her children had not gone on the visits. (And he apparently was unmoved by the fact that he had heard testimony before from one of the older children about how afraid he was of his father.)

Adding to the inappropriate behavior on Judge Hulsing's part is that Ann M. was unrepresented at the hearing, but had a lawyer present who was ready to represent her as soon as he could get prepared on the background of the case. She requested a two-day continuance from the judge so that she could be represented at the hearing, and Judge Hulsing refused, ordering her into jail immediately.

What possible pretext could there be a for a judge to jail an unrepresented mother when she would be able to be represented in a very short time?

Rachel, one of Ann's adult children whom I was able to speak with at length, visited her mother in jail and wrote about her experience on Facebook: "As most of you know, mom is in jail right now for not forcing her teenage kids to their father and get into his car for parenting time... She has been crying all day. She is cold (and needs me to bring her socks when i come visit her tomorrow.) For her ONE visit per week. She said it is a very sad and dark place there, but she had gotten to share Jesus with a lot of women... She is innocent and Judge Hulsing a terrible judge. He would not even listen to ****and ****. Please pray for my mom right now!" [I edited out the children's names.]

I spoke with Rachel yesterday and she told me that when her mother (who is in her mid-fifties) was released from jail two days ago she had lost weight and was badly shaken by the experience. She was kept in terrible conditions in the prison and was freezing cold when attempting to sleep.

In our conversation, Rachel confirmed the long history of violence and terrifying behaviors by her father toward her and her siblings.

There is also important evidence, including written documentation, indicating that Judge Hulsing has engaged in ex parte (private) communications about this case with people who are involved in it. If true, this would indicate another type of misconduct on Judge Hulsing's part, and a severe one. (I will write further about this issue soon.)

It would appear that there is an urgent need to focus on Judge Hulsing's conduct. Given what we know about the Wendy G. case, we now have two recent examples where Hulsing is refusing to follow proper procedure or consider the evidence, and is punishing mothers and children severely for their efforts to protect themselves and each other from what they describe as long and serious histories of abuse. With these examples in hand, we can reasonably worry that Judge Hulsing may have violated the rights of other parties as well; misconduct this extreme is unlikely to be isolated to these two cases.

I am therefore putting out a call for any parents who have received inappropriate treatment, failure to follow procedure, or destructive rulings from Judge Hulsing to please contact me at I would like to collect as many of these stories as we can track down, to help us establish whether there is a pattern of unjust behavior on Judge Hulsing's part.


  1. Lundy, I wrote you a long message (which I can't begin to re-create) and think it got lost because I stopped to create a google account which I needed in order to post my comment. Anyway, I so appreciate what you have written and wish you weren't so far away so that I could follow the evolving of this part of your journey.
    I am still working on my book--which I began shortly after I met you at a workshop in 2007. Your encouragement to write, from my child perspective, about growing up with domestic violence, continues to challenge me.
    I wish you the best.

  2. I sympathize with Ann and I thank-you for these blogs. A Judge should not be on the Bench that shows such bias toward ABUSIVE MEN. In Wendi G.'s case as well as Ann's Judge Hulsing has treated Moms like victims for trying to protect their children and has allowed the children to live/visit with an abusive father. The children are also victims in these cases. In Wendi G's case he did not allow her to talk or see her children for 3 months, a motion initiated by their Pastor father. Why isn't Juge Hulsing protecting or listening to the children?

  3. I am absolutely appalled. This is just about the worse case of blatant judicial misconduct I've heard in decades. This sorry excuse for a "judge," if you want to call him that, should be barred from ever sitting on the bench or practicing law ANYWHERE. Wish I could find a national forum to post my opinions.

  4. Email sent Lundy, but ours is from the Dad's perspective as Dad has primary physical custody. You have our support and we are going to check into having this creep of a judge removed, if possible! Kelli

  5. Lundy, I can't tell you how we need this blog to expose this ungodly injustice in this system here in our county and others. There must be many more cases that have experienced this kind of injustice. There seems to be a pattern here and these people are hiding behind their professions. DEMASK THEM LORD just like you did Saul on the road to DAMASCUS... Expose this to the world just as the media is exposing other key professional people. Where are the ears to hear the cries of the children? Do they not matter? I am so thankful for the ear of God hearing the cries of the little ones, even those who have grown and never were heard as little ones. Hoping others will come forward!

  6. There is something very perverted in the decison for this case and Wendy G. case. This needs Public Notification and a removal of this Judge off these type of cases. These children need protection and safety, and the Mothers don't need punishment for their wanting this! These Fathers need Help!

  7. Anybody who has facebook or twitter, or any of the social media should post this there.

    Lundy, is this new case RCA church again? Does the father happen to belong to RCA or freemason as someone asked me? I looked up freemasons and saw a long history with the RCA. The other person had seen the light sentence Judge Hulsing gave another RCA Member.

    Is Tammy Hulsing his wife, the one who works at an RCA church in the valley, or is the name a coincidence? Tamara Hulsing?

  8. I find it very telling that his church membership keeps coming into play, the very same church as the father/pastor. The very same church as the attorney of the father, who by the way just happened to be partners with the rapist, who thanks to Judge Jon Hulsing, doesn't have to report as a sex offender.

    What about the ex-husband/boyfriend who slashed murdered the two horses of his ex? And he gets a light sentence. Also RCA. You know someone who murders and stalks like that, who knows what he is doing right now with that poor woman since he is freed, thanks to his fellow RCA member?...

    The underlying theme here seems to be abusive/sexual/ domestic violence, of which Judge Jon Hulsing seems to always be in favor of the man who happens to also be RCA and possibly freemason? I don't know much about those, and supposedly they are very hard to detect the signs, etc. and even so, they laugh at the conspiracy, but obvious reason, good common sense, decency, morals and ethics seem to cry out here for justice. There is no justice for the children, for the abused, for the raped, for those who need protection, but those who are in the right denomination seem to have Judge Jon Hulsings protection regardless of the crime.

    Funny how many people do not want to show their names here. I do not blame them. If you live in that area, I would stay anonymous.

  9. The guy who murdered the horses doesn't have an RCA or CRC affiliation. He's just some guy who horribly murdered other people's horses out of profound jealousy. Just no connection to those churches.

  10. I am a friend of Ann and am best friends with two of her children, one of which is still effected by these court rulings. I have been friends with them for a number of years, and currently visit their home almost every other day. I'll be the first to say that everything written here is absolutely true. Ann has raised one of the greatest families I know, and I can't possibly voice my opinion loud enough to vouch for the love that is cultivated in her home. They have taught me what it means to exhibit true Christlike hospitality and support, and without a doubt this is the last family in the world that deserves this level of injustice. Please continue to pray for the situation.

  11. I know another judge here in West/Central Indiana who will not look at evidence. The hearing I was at, he took the parties back to the jury room and did the whole thing except for the last 5 or 10 minutes in private. This with the mother with no attorney and her evidence sitting out in the courtroom with me. We thought he was taking them back for preliminary instructions. Every time the mother would exclaim, "But I have evidence!" he just looked at her and went on. He never said, "Well, show it to me!" This judge won't even enforce his own court orders. It's pretty obvious he is compromised.

  12. Ann's older children should consider writing for Courageous Kids....I do think courageous kids speaking out is going to be so important to exposing these things. - Jen/OH

  13. Why is it that when my my son's mother does not want to allow my court ordered summer vacations with my Son... She files outragous claims... gets a temporary restraining order... then doesn't bother showing up to court. Does it again... doesn't show up for court... Mind you there is no evidence & all allegations are fictitious...
    Why is it the court won't prosecute for perjury?

  14. How is it that these Family Court Judges can get away with robbing people of their children and not be held accountable. This growing trend is helping to destroy families and robbing youth of vibrant futures. I have been battling the family court system it feels like all of my life. And now i am fighting for my son's future. These people if you can call them human, are basically causing mass destruction with in communities. Where is the help for parents who want to raise productive members of society without the non help of a failing system?

  15. I am amazed and also humbled. I was so angry at the judge where I lived in Saudia 17 years ago for giving my violent ex-husband custody of my children.I never imagined that in this day and age in the west the same could happen. It just goes to show that most men have not changed worldwide in their attitudes to women and to divorcees especially. Sorry all good men out there! This judge should be banned from family courts.