tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7240705243908950796.post2032841271655671627..comments2022-12-20T07:32:13.068-08:00Comments on Healing and Hope: CAN THE FAMILY COURT GET UP TO SPEED ON THE PAST FORTY YEARS OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE RESEARCH?Lundy Bancrofthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18047691631730498583noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7240705243908950796.post-77585961658274756732012-11-06T11:15:06.134-08:002012-11-06T11:15:06.134-08:00Many people tell me they think 'they'd kil...Many people tell me they think 'they'd kill themselves' if their child died--whatever the cause. They don't take that detour to consider WHAT IF the father abused the child sexually, or even physically in a rough way? No one wants to consider the MORE LIKELY EPIDEMIC of ABUSE of children..they can't overlook a death, and don't know how they'd cope. How many are in the storm or will be and they don't realize there are 'no lifeguards on duty' to save their children even if they dedicate their lives, funds and hopes to rescuing their child?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7240705243908950796.post-25553327114379885892012-07-11T13:37:00.554-07:002012-07-11T13:37:00.554-07:00www.marathondivorce2financialdistress.blogspot.com...www.marathondivorce2financialdistress.blogspot.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7240705243908950796.post-54475658415380651592012-05-14T12:38:21.515-07:002012-05-14T12:38:21.515-07:00Thank you for the work you do, Lundy! It is such ...Thank you for the work you do, Lundy! It is such a challenge getting the mental health profession (of all people) and CPS to set aside their own personal histories and paradigms to look objectively at each case. It seems that they are very eager to want to preserve time with the abusing parent, particularly if the "evidence" isn't perfectly clear. There are so many adults that have suffered sexual abuse as a child - so clearly it's (unfortunately) not such a rare experience. Judges & everyone in the family court system need to act more cautiously and stop visitation until they can figure out what's really going on instead of waiting until they have more evidence.Natalia Tessahttp://www.coparentingwithanarcissist.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7240705243908950796.post-68301621034030681442012-04-27T12:42:29.422-07:002012-04-27T12:42:29.422-07:00This is exactly what I see when I go to court to d...This is exactly what I see when I go to court to defend my daughter. no one cares that she was abused, no one will look at the facts, and they are so concerned to "preserve" visitation rights for my daughter's father, her molester. Makes me sick.<br /><br />http://youtu.be/p8HhTERwOw4<br /><br />Help my 6 yr old daughter, a victim of sexual abuse. Please share, and get the word out. Keep us in your prayers.Marisel Zaurovhttp://facebook.com/da99thwolfnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7240705243908950796.post-59639019460374621602012-02-18T05:25:26.285-08:002012-02-18T05:25:26.285-08:00Thank you so much for sharing that. It is very ha...Thank you so much for sharing that. It is very hard for a child who suffers abuse to go through the court process. It would also be great if you could also talk about a child rejected by both mother and father after disclosure and the court process. Having to defend yourself on the stand to a barrister after your parents have tried to gather every shred of possible evidence against you is devastating.StrifeSurvivorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05048023102096857992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7240705243908950796.post-75724875970223588472012-02-15T20:54:59.994-08:002012-02-15T20:54:59.994-08:00Agreed. Any Law Student going into the Family Law ...Agreed. Any Law Student going into the Family Law arena as a profession should be required to take courses that fully cover all types of abuse, including how smooth and deceptive the perpetrators will be in these cases. Lundy's books, blogs and seminars would provide the perfect curriculum for those courses.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7240705243908950796.post-34299959950456112722012-02-05T21:36:25.923-08:002012-02-05T21:36:25.923-08:00Thank-you Lundy for this information. It is too b...Thank-you Lundy for this information. It is too bad all attorneys and Judges that work in family court are not trained in sexual abuse as it seems to be growing at a rapid rate. This could apply to a couple of cases in Ottowa County that Judge Hulsing is involved with and he continues to make the children go with the abusive parent even when the children do not want to go. We need to make the public more aware and thank-you for doing your part of sharing valuable information. How can we get court system to deal with these various abuse situations as CPS or police do not seem to want to do anything with the perptrators.Look at the number of Priests, ministers, coaches, and teaches are now being caught abusing children. Who can protect them other than good responsible parents and no one wants to believe them either. The perptrator who almost never admits or takes responsibilty for his horrible behavior seems to get away with his crime. What can we do to change the system? Thank-you for these blogs. We need to spread them to as many people as we can. Thanks again Lundy!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7240705243908950796.post-57553810286675192382012-02-04T20:36:27.420-08:002012-02-04T20:36:27.420-08:00Well, this absolutely matches up with our experien...Well, this absolutely matches up with our experience. The CPS executive director of southern Indiana said there were no experts who could question the children to see if they were making up allegations or not. Apparently, Lundy disagrees. We could use information along those lines Mr. Bancroft, if you could provide it. Evidently, our professionals are sorely in need of education. Meanwhile, the abuse goes on, and on, and on...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7240705243908950796.post-38232137164058041922012-02-04T08:14:06.659-08:002012-02-04T08:14:06.659-08:00Thank you Lundy for informing us of what happens i...Thank you Lundy for informing us of what happens in cases of sexual abuse and the true facts that are involved in all of this. My heart aches for the victims that will not be heard by the courts or by anyone who is not familiar with this devastating evil. The lives of these victims may be traumatized forever. The lives of these little ones are at stake. Thank you for being an advocate for them. Every person in the judicial system should read your book and see what really is happening in the lives of the innocent children. May GODS will prevail!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com